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Into the void

September 3, 2007
by jasonwrites

I feel the need to post, though no one will read this, and that’s exactly my problem.

Though I love my family, my wife and kids (and dogs), I feel lonely in this world. Friendless. Not one person called me over the summer. Well, one old friend finally did, but only after I prodded him to (and then still have not had an actual conversation).

I don’t stink and I’m not unlikable, but I’m far away from my original home, and I suffer from some degree of social ineptness, I think. I just don’t know how you make friends when you’re a grown-up and married. Sure, I can talk to people online– though I don’t even do that half as well as I used to– but 90% of the social interactions on the Web are related to seeking members of the opposite sex (or whichever you prefer)– where do you go to truly find “just friends”? Moreover, what I’m really hurting for is male friends. Buddies, ya know. I pretty much have none. The guys I could hang out with in that sense all live back in Georgia.

I don’t know what to do, but it’s depressing me.

Add to that the stress of teaching… Year 2 has begun. So far, so… well, I’m OK. Already falling behind, and I really have no excuses. My life proceeds as a middle school social studies teacher… so not what I saw myself as two years ago. (Think English. Think high school. But life is strange).

So, whoever may stumble upon this, a comment would be nice… the merest acknowledgement of my presence is meaningful these days. Hell, I don’t even show up on the first page of results when I Google my name anymore– and I used to fill up that page! Don’t worry, I’m not about to off myself or any such thing. Just… need some more human connection. That’s all.

9 Comments leave one →
  1. Maria permalink
    September 4, 2007 9:24 am

    I feel that this is partially my fault (if not all) that you are feeling this way. I’m so sorry my love. :-( The last thing that I ever wanted was for you to feel like this and I don’t know what to do about it. I’m the reason that you left home and moved across the country into a place where you knew no one…and now we’re pretty much stuck here for a while. I feel your pain though…and you know that I will give you any and all the space that you need when you do want to go out and just hang out w/ friends.

    I don’t know what else to say…except that I love you honey and I support you…always.

  2. tammy permalink
    September 12, 2007 5:55 am

    i think i no what u mean there is a part of u missing

  3. September 13, 2007 5:51 am

    “Friendless. Not one person called me over the summer.”

    Sounds like me. But I am so introverted I consider the above situation a good thing.

  4. Carrie permalink
    September 14, 2007 8:48 pm

    And I have thought of you so many times over this summer…but of course I have lost your number and have been in the same boat myself for the last few months. Even though I have alot of friends…the real friend connection isn’t there

  5. Kelly permalink
    September 29, 2007 5:36 pm

    Hey, Jason … what you’ve written really speaks to me. I am having exactly the same problem. I think that’s why it’s so hard for me to end things with Toshi … he is my best friend, even if that is only by default.

    The problem for me is that all of my old friends got married, and suddenly they fell off the face of the earth. I did stumble across meetup.com and see some hope there. It’s a site where people can organize groups based on interests like politics, knitting, movies, sports … all kinds of things. I joined one called “Dining out in Pasadena” and another about Chinese culture. Now I just need to get up the nerve to actually go to one. Meeting new people is not my forte, either, but I do miss having friends to just hang out with. Anyway, you might want to check out meetup.com; it’s a national site.

    I would have commented much sooner, but I didn’t realize you were blogging over here again. Pick a site, wouldya! ;-)

  6. November 15, 2007 5:02 pm

    Hey Jason…it’s been a LONG time! I don’t get on here like ever – I did today though. It saddens me to see you are not happy and are feeling lonely. I hope that things have changed and you have found someone…

    Where is Wil? I remember you two were like attached when I knew you ;)

  7. wil permalink
    December 30, 2007 8:36 pm

    Where is Wil? Sounds like a new board game. I thought I’d left comment here? Though may have been another one of those bad net moments.
    Net surprisingly has been good over Christmas.

  8. January 6, 2008 10:46 pm

    Hi there, I am writing to acknowledge having read this here. You and I shared discourse almost seven years ago on xanga, whilst we were both in grad school. It seems that we are both now in education. It’s noteworthy. Hang in there with the middle school gig. Best to you. Erika

  9. June 14, 2008 3:44 pm

    My people don’t read my blog either. It’s just not their thing. I’m over it for the most part.

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